👣 Step 49: Bring the Mountain HomeIn 2021, I was blessed to attend Sigma Chi’s Horizons Leadership Summit in Snowbird, Utah with two close fraternity brothers. As I look back on the past 5 years, that trip was my inflection point. Horizons was my light switch. Before Horizons, I was a leader, but it was more out of happenstance. I was innately good at things, but I never really invested in them. I was the kid who got good grades but never really studied, or the guy people listened to, but I never truly aimed to lead. After Horizons, the light turned on. I completely dove into leadership. I pursued personal development, additional responsibilities, skills training, emotional intelligence, and so much more. I saw the importance of leadership and that we need more good leaders in this world. And more importantly, I saw that I could be one of those leaders (as well as others around me). Horizons has a saying: “Bring the mountain home.” On the mountain, you learn a lot about yourself and how to lead. You learn how to be more self aware and a stronger critical thinker. You learn how to deeply connect with others and understand what they value. You learn how to lead through your values. But if you don’t bring that home with you to share the knowledge with others and improve their lives, it’s all for nothing. We could bring the mountain home more often in our lives. As leaders, it’s our responsibility to enlighten and empower others. As humans, it’s our responsibility to make others’ lives better. To leave the world better than we found it. It can be small, like sharing a new song or restaurant you think they’ll love. Or it can be life-changing, like sharing a new thought process or connecting them to a person that can help them grow closer to their goal. How many times do we go to a workshop or conference, meet new people, learn a lot of great things, get super inspired and motivated, then go home and resume life as normal? How frequently do we learn something new, try a new method of doing something, enjoy the result, then keep it to ourselves? How often do we travel, experience new places and cultures, learn more about the human condition, discover new ways of living, thinking, and socializing, then fly home and settle back into our routines and mindsets? As this newsletter lands in your inbox, I’m in Maryland wrapping up Goodwill’s Senior Leader Program. I’ve learned a lot, and I’ve tasked myself with bringing this mountain home. What mountain can you bring home? See you next Thursday, Steppers. We will succeed, Grayson Song of the Week:
I had a completely different song planned for today's newsletter, but it's the 10th anniversary of Blonde, and I just had to highlight a song from it. I vividly remember where I was and what I felt when I first listened to it. On the mattress in my parent's living room, right after the 2016 flood. Lights off, raining, both headphones in, just taking in all of the sounds and emotions. I'd never heard anything like Blonde before, and I haven't since. This album brings me back to Summer 2016. Old relationships. High school football. Starbucks pink drinks and sunsets. Pokemon Go. A different time. A good time. Cheers to Frank Ocean and Blonde - my favorite album of all time and a true masterpiece. |
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👣 Step 50: Processing Complex Emotions These past few days I've experienced a handful of things where I just haven't immediately known what to feel. This newsletter is both an act to sort out my own thoughts while hopefully helping you do the same. Here are some of those experiences, and my complex feelings around them: 1. My dad's dad passed away Monday night. We weren't close with him - really no one in the family was (long story short: his own choices). My dad and I hadn't seen or talked...
👣 Step 48: Get a Bigger World Ash and I in Murren, Switzerland. The world definitely felt bigger here. I saw this video of a guy recounting a college interaction with his roommate. He was ranting over this small annoyance with a coworker when his roommate said “Dude, you need a bigger world.” I.e. you need bigger problems. The lesson: Find big things to focus on, and the small things become irrelevant. So often, we get caught up over the small things: The fast food worker forgetting your...
👣 Step 47: Critical Thinking is Your Moat Last week I facilitated again at Sigma Chi's Krach Transformational Leaders Workshop, and I had a blast reconnecting with my fellow alumni brothers while pouring into my undergraduate group. I had a rockstar group of 13 guys, and they really leaned into the curriculum. They got close really quickly, and I could see the information really clicking and inspiring them. But there's one thing I want to discuss, as this was the first year I really noticed...